In parallel with her newly released book “My Own Words,” Supreme Court Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg wrote an article for the NY Times where she offered advice for living.
One useful tip given by her mother-in-law on her wedding day was the following: Continue reading Sometimes It Pays To Just Let It Go
As part of my coaching practice, I mentor coach a good chunk of coaches who are seeking to acquire the Associated Certified Coach ACC or Professional Certified Coach PCC certification.
At times certain mentees equate mentor coaching to include honing their coaching skills, practice building, personal development, etc.
This is not the case.
The ICF explicitly states Continue reading ICF Mentor Coaching Requirements
Six months ago I arrived in Dumaguete Philippines. A small town on the southeastern tip of Negros Oriental.
It’s certainly been an interesting ride thus far. Here are my random thoughts and events over the last 180 days:
- It takes 6 months to get a feel for any new place.
- I fractured both ankles after falling in a roadside water canal in May.
- It’s October and my ankles are still swollen. As you get older it takes more time to heal.
- There’s a huge difference in fracturing one ankle vs. both.
- Fruit and vegetable vendors are plentiful and everywhere.
- Dumaguete is known as The City of Gentle People for a very good reason.
- The locals are extremely friendly and giving souls.
- Housing costs are very reasonable. You can rent a two or three bedroom home for under $300 a month plus utilities.
- I know expats who rent a modest home for $150 a month
- Food prices are the same or even more than the states.
- Medical and dental fees are significantly less. My girlfriend had two impacted wisdom teeth removed for$208 each. The other two regular wisdom teeth were extracted for $14 each.
- My emergency room visit following my roadside accident set me back roughly $150.
- I feel very safe living in a foreign country.
- My orthopedic surgeon initially charged me $41 for a consultation and the ankle cast. For two follow up visits the fee was $10 per.
- Dining out is almost cheaper than cooking for yourself at home. Dinner for two at an average restaurant with beverages is roughly $10.
- Public transportation is a bargain. Fares range from .21 cents for a trike to anywhere in town. A jeepney or bus for a longer trip can be .37 cents for a half hour ride to $3 for a 3 hour bus ride.
- I miss the ability to call up friends or family and have an impromptu lunch.
- The one food I miss the most? A Wegmans Submarine sandwich!
- Clients admire the fact I’m living my endgame. This inspires them to begin, keep going, or put in the time required to achieve their own goals.
- People here are the same as people everywhere. They want to be loved, have fun, and live in peace.
- Security guards all carry. They’re everywhere. Malls, supermarkets, department stores, etc.
- If you pay with plastic, expect the process to take five minutes or more for the vendor to swipe your card, print four receipts, and manually enter a bunch of other numbers to complete the transaction. Early on it was painful. Over time I’ve surrendered to the fact that this is how things work in a developing country.
- I’m having a ball taking my Advanced Scuba Diving certification.
- When I first arrived, I was told you don’t have to worry about the locals. However, be on the defensive with foreigners. Spot on.
- Dove to 100 feet for the first time in August. What a rush!
- Dove at night for the first time. Wow!
- At a minimum, two showers a day is a must. Only if you’re as vain as I am. Hehehe.
- You can have your clothes washed and dried for less than $1 a kilo.
- When you move to another country, your immune system needs time to adjust to the local bacteria.
- I’ve been sick several times with fever and viral infections. Not fun.
- I love the daily temperatures which hover in the high 80’s.
- I miss the cool October weather of Central NY.
- It’s vital to have a local support system comprised of foreigners and locals.
- Observing the poverty here puts everything in perspective. I’m so grateful.
- Lots of beggars. Children will walk up to you and sing Charlie Puth’s “One Call Away” and extend their hand for a donation.
- Mother’s leverage the innocence of their young ones to beg for money. Heartbreaking actually.
- Need medicine? Pharmacies on every street counter akin to Starbucks on every block in Seattle. Open air types and traditional.
- You can purchase lots of meds without a script.
- I’m swimming again doing one mile in about 45 minutes.
- The water is my sanctuary.
- McDonald’s tastes the same here as it does in the states. However they modify the menu to include local fave eats such as spaghetti, rice, and fried chicken.
- I’m enjoying learning the local language. Filipinos appreciate my efforts. That goes a long way to building relationships on a local level.
- I drink and cook with only purified water.
- Exploring new surroundings is a daily serotonin hit.
- You’ve got to be a little crazy to be doing what I’m doing. I’m sure some of you might agree.
- I miss my own bed.
- I miss taking a bath. They’re nonexistent here in the Philippines.
- Average pizza is everywhere.
- A man haircut is P40 or .83 cents. I tip well.
- The saltwater in the Philippines makes you super buoyant. I can snorkel for hours without much effort. Love.
- I’m looking forward to exploring other countries. It’s an adventure!
Do You Know the WHY Behind Your Vote?
by Dr. Ron Bonnstetter Senior VP of Research & Development at TTI Success Insights
Brain Science Offers Answers to Your Presidential Choice
An election year is always a polarizing time for the country. A nation is divided not only by the issues, but the strong emotions evoked by those issues.
This year is particularly fascinating (or frightening, depending on who you ask) with candidates rising in the ranks who are downright shocking to many individuals. To say voters are scratching their heads as to how the top candidates have stayed at the top is the understatement of the century.
Take Donald Trump, for instance. Headline after headline, and article after article, Continue reading Emotions Drive Your Vote
Jason Silva is one of the most intellectually intoxicating people I follow.
If you want a jump start to propel you towards your endgame, do yourself a favor: shut off the tv, close those umpteen web browser pages, ignore social media, hold off on sending that meaningless text, etc. and for the next four minutes watch, listen, and absorb Jason’s laser like message. Continue reading Learn To Control Your Attention, Your Mind, Your Thoughts
Coaches, get over yourselves! It’s not about you. It’s about the client.
It’s not about you and how well you perform. It’s all about the quality of the client and their willingness to change and do what’s required to conquer their endgame.
Marshall Goldsmith is globally recognized as a business thinker of influence. In 2015, Thinkers 50 ranked him as the number one leadership thinker and the number one executive coach in the world.
Marshall charges big bank for his services where he helps successful leaders achieve positive long term change in behavior for themselves, for their people, and for their teams.
In addition he’s published many books including the best seller: Triggers: Creating Behavior That Lasts–Becoming the Person You Want to Be.
I had the honor of seeing Marshall speak at a SHRM event in the Syracuse area several years ago.
What I love about Marshall Goldsmith is Continue reading Heh Coach, It’s Not About You!