Needing to know how kills lots of dreams.
Are you confused by the aforementioned statement?
Did your head just drop to one side in bewilderment?
You know that look. The one you get when your dog gazes up at you in amazement and curiosity and then tilts his/her head thinking, “What are you up to?”
You heard me right the first time! Needing to know how is a dream killer.
It’s no secret I’m a huge fan of Jerry Seinfeld’s “Comedians In Cars Getting Coffee.” The comic genius interviews his fave professional funny peers and packages them all for us to enjoy on the web for free.
During a recent episode, Jerry interviewed Trevor Noah. The hilarious quick minded 31 year old South African comic is the new host of “The Daily Show,” replacing the iconic Jon Stewart who was a fixture at Comedy Central for 17 years.
The comedians hopped into a white 1985 Ferrari 308 GTB (748 made of which only three were white) with Jerry at the wheel and Trevor riding shotgun. The comedic duo motored their way through the concrete jungle of New York, finally arriving at the Dumbo Brooklyn location of One Girl Cookies, on the water and beneath the bridge to enjoy each others conversation and a cup of joe.
During the convo Trevor says to Jerry, “I feel like you’ve taught me so much already” with an estol look of thankfulness.
Jerry was quick to counter, leaning in saying:
You don’t need to know anything. Everything you need to know, you’ll figure it out when you need to know it. Even if you miscalculate and make the wrong decision, you needed to know that.
I always say that pain is knowledge rushing in to fill a gap. When you stub your toe on the foot of the bed, that was a gap in knowledge.
And the pain is a lot of information, really quick. That’s what pain is.
Do you agree with Seinfield? I do.
I’ve coached hundreds upon hundreds of clients and at the outset of their endgame they’re consumed with howness and yeah buts.
- How am I going to do this?
- How am I going to do that?
- Yeah but, how do I go about…
I can’t tell you how many “how’s” and “yeah buts” I’ve heard from clients over the course of my coaching career.
Here’s a little secret. It’s all made up.
Every creation began with an idea. Those who have tasted lots of success had the cajones to take a sketchy concept, make the first step, then another, and another, stub their toes again and again, and simply made the whole thing up as they went along.
They didn’t need to know anything!
The next time your itty bitty shitty committee whispers “how” and “yeah but” in your ear and you begin to ebb from your endgame, do yourself a favor. Go back up and read Jerry’s quote beginning with: “You don’t need to know anything. Everything you need to know, you’ll figure out when you need to know it.”
Though it might be prudent to purchase a handsome pair of steel toed shoes. Just sayin.