I recently led a class at Coach University called Exploding Myths.
The premise of the course was to help the student coach develop their myth busting muscle to help clients get where they want to go quicker by slaying their myths.
A myth is a story your Itty Bitty Shitty Committee whispers in your ear. You know, those thoughts that pop into your head while you’re taking a shower, commuting to work, in a long afternoon meeting, eating lunch with colleagues, or simply daydreaming watching your kids play baseball on a hot summer day.
Myths are stories you believe to be true. For example:
- You’re not good enough for the promotion
- No matter what you do you’ll always be overweight
- You’ll never find that special someone
- You hate your job and that’s the way it will always be
- You’ll never have a coaching business because you can’t sell your services
Over the past several months I’ve helped clients vaporize these so called -myths- through the use of a tool called TriMetrix HD. This assessment uncovers the how and the why someone behaves the way they do. The TriMetrix HD report also reveals their competencies, strengths, as well as what needs developing.
When I look at a report, sometimes it’s as clear as a high definition television screen as to what’s going on with the client.
As the business coach, I can see the blind spots as to why their business is in the land of stuck. They might be great at creating a vision yet their communication skills are so underdeveloped it’s impossible to convey their thoughts in a meaningful way so everyone is on the same train moving in the right direction.
When I work with a client in career transition, I’ll pick up on a value in the TriMetrix HD report that drives them day in and day out yet they’re in a job that requires different motivators to succeed . No wonder they’re on the verge of drowning, hopelessly treading water in a professional life where they hate their job, boss, career, industry, etc.
As an executive coach, I help clients buff their leadership skills to empower the team to be more productive and do more with less. Yet when I look at the TriMetrix HD report, in their eyes, the world revolves around them. Guess what, their followers are never going to follow that leader. They’re doing the minimum, looking for another job.
In my role as a Mentor Coach, I work with new coach’s to build their coaching practice. The biggest obstacle standing in their way is the perception about who they are and who they want to become. The idea of selling services is so foreign to them it literally consumes their persona and paralyzes them in their tracks.
“The one thing people are never good at, is seeing themselves as others see them. A coach really really helps.” Eric Schmidt, Chairman of Google Inc.
In the aforementioned scenarios, the person doesn’t know who they really are. As coach, my job is to help them uncover their Who to get them to where they want to quicker.
♫ Well who are you? I really wanna know. ♪♫
Today’s guest post is by Mr. Bill Bonnstter, my assessment company’s Founder and CEO, on the Science of Self.™
The Elusive Process of Uncovering Uniqueness by Bill Bonnstetter
Every person is unique. And yet, the process of uncovering uniqueness is often elusive.
Here at TTI SI, we know the key to uncovering a person’s uniqueness is to look to their talents and skills. Most skills and talents are developed slowly over time.
While we accumulate life experience, job experience and relationship experience, these talents and skills develop quietly within us.
Given this slow, steady development, we are often completely unaware of the rise of these abilities. It’s very difficult for people to actually understand and identify their own skills and talents.
Don’t believe me? Try asking someone, “What do you do better than anyone else you know?”
Yet, the discovery of a person’s skills and talents is critical to finding fulfillment and happiness in both career and personal life. And, one of the major benefits of discovering your skills and talents is the reduction of stress in work and life.
In addition, knowledge of self empowers a person with an understanding that allows them to not only better understand themselves, but to understand others, and as a result, better interact and communicate more effectively.
Over three decades of research into this process of self-discovery has culminated in the development of the Science of Self™, a research-based process of discovering your skills and talents by analyzing your education, experience, skills, behavior, motivational driving forces, worldview and emotional intelligence (EQ).
The Science of Self is a holistic analysis of the entire person. When applied using all seven factors listed above, the individual is empowered with self-knowledge.
People then experience change such as:
- More control of their future
- Better career trajectory
- Enhanced livelihood
By using a scientific approach to discovery and disclosure, a person is able to add voice to feelings that were before unexpressed “gut” feelings. As a result, the vocabulary and measurability of the Science of Self creates a far greater level of self-awareness.
The Science of Self informs individuals to make decisions in line with the purpose and direction in both their career and personal relationships. It also opens the door to personal and professional growth.
The Science of Self is a belief system to us. Sharing the Science of Self with the world is a passion and a calling, because it unfailingly reveals the true talents and skills people can then share with the world.
It changes lives, careers and relationships.
I think a good way to think about myths is to really consider WHY we believe what we do. Ask yourself 5 whys and your myth will likely start to feel ridiculous even to you.
What I like about this method is we ask ourselves the same question over and over. Peel one layer of the onion after another.